07 October 2019

Why Let Go? ~ Matt Kahn ~ 6 October 2019

Source: Matt Kahn

In order to know the benefits of letting go, it is essential to first identify what you might be holding on to.

Perhaps you are holding onto a dream of how you want your life to be? And, of course, the purpose of life is to grow, so it is natural and important to always strive toward greater horizons of experience. But when any degree of striving for change overlooks the equally important facet of appreciating all that you have — an imbalance occurs. In this space of imbalance, where more time is spent striving towards something different than appreciating exactly the way life happens to be, you experience a degree of shutting down, known commonly as sadness.

When you are shut down in sadness it is nearly instinctive to believe that you can only feel differently once your life circumstances become different.

In sadness, it is common to believe, “if I am unable to snap my fingers and make external circumstances better, there goes any chance of feeling better." Such a belief only amplifies the self-defeat, misery, and agony shutting down conveys. It is partially true-- something in your life does need to change in order to inspire transformation in your emotional experiences, but it only needs to be the changing of your perspective.

In order for such incredible shifts to occur, let’s explore the fundamental rhythm of reality that when overlooked, facilitates the shutting down you are eager to dissolve and unravel. No matter how many years you’ve been on this planet, how few or how many mystical experiences you’ve had, or even the amount of grief, neglect or abuse you’ve endured, all human beings experience a rhythm of perpetual change. During reoccurring periods of inevitable change, there are two cycles at play...cycles of renewal and erosion.

In renewal, old things become new. In erosion new things become old.

Throughout the human condition, it is normal to be positively elated by the birth of new creations that renewal so often provides. Equally so, it is also normal for the elation experienced in renewal to flatten or seem empty as new things become old. It is lovely to receive a bouquet of flowers, which isn’t the same experience when all the petals fall off with stems steeped in murky water. It's glorious to manifest exciting new opportunities, which inevitably become less exciting once something new becomes that 'same old thing'. This also happens in relationships, where the passion of a brand-new love affair fades into the boredom of everyday life. Again, this is a normal way of functioning within the human condition. This means it is normal for how ego perceives, but not nearly as incredibly as your soul sees your life.

When you view from your soul’s perspective, you are inherently emotionally free. You are able to strive towards goals, while always making time to appreciate all that’s been given by honoring all the experiences that have come to be. You are able to cherish the fact that new things are only set to become old things, while the space created from this process only gives rise to the creation of newer things to be. From this space of emotional freedom, you are able to equally embrace renewal and erosion for their transformative benefits, no matter how much pleasure or pain will be felt.

In ego, you are conditioned to seek pleasure primarily to avoid the anticipation of pain. Since the ego’s perception of joy, elation, and arousal could only be noticed in the absence of pain, it is your primary way of functioning in the human condition to be your most open, positive and loving self during cycles of renewal, only to shut down, lash out, and turn away the moment erosion dawns.

Since renewal naturally leads to erosion and erosion only clears space for greater renewal, the art of letting go is relinquishing a need to control it.

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